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The big secret is no longer capable of being ignored. It's too big.
"Members Leaving Mormon Church in Droves"
There is a whole new body of people increasing in significant numbers in and about the great Utah Church. They can no longer be ignored.
Members are requesting the removal of their names from the membership records of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints in alarming numbers according to patriarchal hierarchy of the church.
Mormon Elder Marlin Jensen, official historian for the church, told Reuters, “. . . attrition has accelerated in the last five or 10 years.”
A whole department has mushroomed in Salt Lake City church offices dedicated to the purpose of processing the names of people who no long want their identities associated with Mormonism. However, you don’t just call and say, “Hey. I’m outta here. Write me gone.” Resigning requires specific information or the church cannot find your records or process them. There are dozens of Internet sites providing exact instructions with form letters you can down load for just that purpose. Merely Google “Leaving the Mormon church,” and your biggest problem is which Internet site to choose.
Literally hundreds of Internet sites exist dedicated to Life After Mormonism and/or Post Mormonism or anything along those lines. Any combination of words with Ex- Mormon in them will connect you with web sites by the goggle-de-gross. Google the name of a city or state put ex-Mormon next to it and you will find yourself connected to a local group of people who identify with a history of once having been a Mormon. You will find they meet a given number of times a year for companionship and merriment.
If you are a Mormon and you have decided that you no longer want to be a Mormon what do you do, where do you look for assistance? Merely walking away is possible and many have done exactly that, but no matter your exit strategy it’s not that easy. You are faced with choices you have not had to make before.
Your previous cultural values – some or most - don’t work for you anymore and you don’t yet have a complete replacement set. You have reached the rank of someone who stands for better. You are no longer loyal to a male patriarchy. You are an independent thinker, own your own mind, and the path you’re walking is uniquely yours, but . . . leaving the church is like wrestling with a razor wire of guilt and fear, obedience and loyalty. They were conditioned deep.
The good part is you don’t have to go it alone. Many, having made the same journey, have actually dedicated their lives to assist you. The betrayal and abandonment is so emotionally violent it produces a classic PTSD syndrome. Reaching out, assisting others is part of the healing process. It is a unique kind of stress that demands processing. Writing, spelling out the experience, helps. There are thousands of transition stories. Authoring those stories is processing the experience, yes, but it also answers the empathic urge to reach out to those who are experiencing that same pain. The right to own your own mind plucks a respondent chord in those of us who have already made the journey. They have written important books.
Let me recommend a few: Exit Strategies by Micah McAllister, An American Fraud by Kay Burningham, The Mormon Delusion, five volumes by Jim Whitefield, and anything by the granddaddy of all things Mormon and ex-Mormon Richard Packham.
Ask any ex-Mormon, “Would you do it again?”
Answer: “The only thing I would change is when. If I knew then what I know now I would have left the church much sooner.”
Ask any ex-Mormon, “What have you learned?”
Answer: “It was hard. I had nothing to equate it to. Today, no one tells me what is right or wrong for me, but me. I would do it again in a New York minute”
Ask any gay ex-Mormon, “Did you consider suicide?”
Answer: “I think we all do at some point. Today there is a plausible alternative. We don’t have to put up with tired traditions. Leaving the church is the better solution.”
The Internet has changed things. There is a whole new body of persons increasing in significant numbers in and about the Utah monolith. The numbers grow and it is not gays alone that are swelling the numbers.
EX-Mormon's have become a strong political force, no grandiosity intended.